Jul 22, 2019
In this episode of the Millionaire MIndcast, we the amazing individuals Brandy and Lance Salazar, who shares the framework on how to create legendary relationships with your spouse, and kids, show options and potentials within relationships in the family, ways to strengthen relationships, and the frameworks on being intentional in staying in relationships to everything!
Brandy Salazar has been a highly respected member of the Sacramento real estate industry for over 20 years. After more than 1,000 successful residential flips, being ranked in the Sacramento Business Journal for Commercial Development and having been featured in Sacramento Magazine for Flipping Homes, she maintains a reputation as an investment expert with high integrity. She is the founder and CEO of FAM Homes, a boutique flipping company that focuses on restoring value to luxury homes through property renovation, and FAM Real Estate, a full-service real estate team serving buyers and sellers throughout northern California.
Lance was a Senior Pharmacist at Pharmacy Networks for 13 years. Lance and Brandy Salazar are the Founder of the Legendary Couples with Kids, the mission is to help couples reconnect with each other and stay deeply in love while raising their daughters and while having juggling careers. They co-authored the book, “The Miracle Morning for Couples: Create Legendary Connections One Morning at a Time”.
The couple almost got into divorce because they live the life of misaligned priorities. One day they realized that maybe they can still save their relationships to be a good example to their two daughters. So decided to reconnect and thrive their marriage. They were in awkward and uncomfortable conversations at the beginning but they manage to make it the best time and develop the consistency of their relationships.
For them, part of developing a high emotionally intelligent relationship is understanding who you’re dealing with. Get to know your partner really well. Make sure you are both aligned with your core values and the same vision.
Brandy and Lance make sure that despite how busy they’re on their career, their family is the priority. They must be in their highest level of integrity in every aspect of their lives, grow and become the best version of themselves, and get clear on the boundaries and values in life. So they’ve created visions together, make a plan on how to achieve it, committed to all areas, and communicate with each other to make sure they are on the same page along the way.
Lance emphasizes on stop trying to please others but please yourselves. Don’t allow other people to dictate your life. Hold accountable on yourselves so that you can do it to anybody else. Self-love is finding something that you can commit to yourself and do it.
Relationships spice life!
Some Questions I Ask:
- What lead you to the path of being a legendary couple and individuals? (02:54)
- How have you been able to build big businesses, big lives and still make your relationships a priority? (06:10)
- How important is it to have a partner or spouse that’s supporting you in all your personal and professional goals? (07:54)
- How did you guys stand on the same page? (08:49)
- How’s the “Miracle Morning“ helps building thriving, successful, strong, relationships? (11:29)
- How do you guys not take relationships for granted? (22:35)
- Talk about the importance of surrounding yourselves with other people and how it helps thriving or destructing relationships? (28:14)
- How do you advise people who have toxic relationships in their lives, where do they start? (36:29)
- How’s your relationship evolution with your family and other people around you? (38:53)
- How do you resolve conflicts? (44:53)
- How critical of having thriving relationships to live in the richest, happy, and fulfilling life? (54:36)
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
- The catalyst to the amazing life they have right now. (03:44)
- Why their businesses now are more effective. (07:11)
- The mission of the book “Miracle Morning for Couples“ (08:56)
- Brandy and Lance nighttime routine. (10:44)
- T-E-A-M as the four relationship elements (13:40)
- Partnership loops. (19:09)
- Positive Reinforcement vs. Negative Reinforcement (23:46)
- Force socialization. (28:37)
- How to attract good people. (34:16)
- How to reprogram some really deep patterns. (42:10)
Quotes:
- “The tip of the iceberg.”
- “It’s not just reconnecting and developing the relationships that we have with each other, it’s all the things.”
- “Your challenges and your struggles, they have the potential to become your superpowers.”
- “Your message is our message.”
- “Mental and physical health is the foundation in all.”
- “Do what’s important first and the other things become easier.”
- “Make sure that your word is your word.”
- “It wasn’t always easy.”
- “Pushing through the uncomfortable and just check the checkbox.”
- “Meditation is a SAVERS.”
- “We are all moving so fast.”
- “Like attracts like.”
- “Good people seek good people.”
- “If you go and start looking, you’re going to find what you are looking for.”
- “Raise your vibration and watch the attraction change.”
- “Stay away from energy vampires.”
- “I am loving but my standards are not.”
- “Self-confidence is the habit of keeping promises to yourself.”
- “If you commit to something, follow through.”
- “Your word is your bun.”
- “Stick to your boundaries.”
- “Find something that’s unique to you.”
- “Relationships are the greatest asset.”